During the spring of 2008, I felt that my life was going nowhere and I had no time to stop, think and take my life somewhere. I realized that how I spend my time is really the most important thing I control. It was evident that I had to really identify my governing values, before I could embark in any meaningful prioritization of my time. (In hindsight, this makes sense, you have to decide what's good of time and what's not and your values guide that decision).
I somehow managed to spend time over a couple of months to arrive at my governing values. The process of arriving at this list of values involved reading a lot of books ("Now, Discover Your strengths", "Time Management from the Inside Out"), discussions with my relatives, attending a Franklin Covey class called "Focus" and a whole lot of introspection. These were the values I arrived at:
- Structure
- Connection with Family and Friends
- Meaningful work
- Physical Fitness and Appearance
- Spiritual Development
- Penchant for Learning
- Financial Comfort
- Relaxation
In general, my life took a turn to the better after I identified my values. I have used Franklin Covey's planner on and off (BTW, their software is terrible). I regularly use my white board to align my work and time to my values.
Each of these phrases in my list of values, can mean different things to different people. So, I wrote down some clarifying statements (also recommended by Covey). For me, "Physical Fitness and Appearance" meant the following:
- I have a decent BMI.
- I eat right.
- I have increased stamina and strength.
- I attend to my medical needs in time.
- I look and behave in a presentable manner.
- I wear contact lenses.
I was focused more on other values till recently. A wedding in the family and my parents visiting me kept me occupied during fall. During summer, I was diagnosed with severe sleep apnea. I tried the CPAP machine and hated it. I am using a dental device and it seems to be helping. I am hoping that losing some serious weight will fix this for good. That was like the proverbial last straw that broke this camel's back.
This is how my weight loss journey started...
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